Laughter as brain injury medicine … who is to blame this time

23 Jan

I must admit laughter lightens our souls and brightens each day!  We can laugh at ourselves or laugh with others, either way it increases the “feel good” hormones in the brain.  It seems like people have been laughing at all the goofy things I’ve been doing over the years, and now I’m observing all the situations around me.  Guess what? It’s not just me!

My husband and I pulled in to the driveway.  He informed me that my garage door opener could not be reprogrammed to work in my car.  Hence, the garage door opener is not working from the car.  Oh, the conveniences of technology.  Our expectations that everything should always work!

Sectional-type overhead garage doors in the st...

He asked if I had keys to the house?  First, I thought why wouldn’t I have keys to my house?  I’m sure he meant to ask if I had the keys to the house on me.  I handed him the keys and told him it was the purple lighted key.  He said their were no purple keys. I had only one purple lighted key on my key chain.

He handed me the keys to show him which one was purple!  Well, that wasn’t a difficult task.  It’s probably the easiest thing I’ve been asked recently.  I handed him back the keys with the only purple key!  He responded with a totally confused look!

I knew I didn’t take it off my keyring.  Why would I?  After that discussion he unlocked the door.  He left that door open and came back to the car and sat in the driver’s seat.  I’m sitting in the passenger seat!

I waited to see what his next move was.  We waited, and waited, and waited!  Ha, now try silence for a while when you know what is happening.  I think he was waiting for the overhead garage door to magically open!  I know he meant to open it up when he unlocked the garage service door but something distracted him!


Automobile (Photo credit: A*A*R*O*N)

So here we sit in the car in our driveway waiting for … I guess waiting for our thoughts?  Waiting for a miracle?  Waiting for whatever was next to come? Maybe, waiting for “I Dream of Jeanie” to show up!

Eventually, he realized he forgot to open the overhead garage door … we both just laughed!  I happily got out and opened the garage door!  Now I must ask myself, who is distracted?  I could cry because these moments have become much more frequent, but I will laugh and laughing together is even better!

Have you observed behaviors that seemed strange but the fault was always yours?  How did you handle the situations?

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5 responses to “Laughter as brain injury medicine … who is to blame this time

  1. behindthemaskofabuse

    January 23, 2013 at 12:23 am

    well i had therapy yesterday and i’m still affected by it today, so i forgot just about everything today. i couldn’t even remember an answer my Hubby had given me to a question i asked him two seconds earlier, i couldn’t even remember asking him the question. duh…lol

    • brain injury self rehabilitation (BISR)

      January 26, 2013 at 10:04 pm

      It’s very frustrating when short term memory is affected by injury or stress … it’s also very embarrassing ! The best way to interact when someone has short term memory loss (STM) is to ignore it. Pointing out deficits can be very demeaning to the individual with brain injury because they are constantly being corrected for everything by everyone. When I know what a person means (even though they are using the wrong words or person’s name) I don’t ever bring it to their attention. Pointing things out can escalate behavior problems with brain injury. Unless it’s a safety issue, it’s easier to just listen. It’s devasating when others are noticing problems that they never had before and trying to get proper professional help is another problem. This can happen with a number of stressful situations or neurological problems. It’s very different when a spouse can joke around and laughter is always a good thing! Just laugh at the goofy things we do!

      • behindthemaskofabuse

        January 26, 2013 at 11:18 pm

        i can see that, if you point it out, it stresses a person more and then they have more trouble…vicious circle. thankfully my Hubby is really patient with my memory. i’m less patient with myself…maybe a bit embarrassed. laughing for sure helps it reduces the stress!

  2. Three Well Beings

    January 26, 2013 at 1:01 am

    I admire your ability to laugh when it hurts! And to face the future with a sense of humor.

    • brain injury self rehabilitation (BISR)

      January 26, 2013 at 10:38 pm

      What are the choices? Laugh or cry! Laughing heals and crying hurts more! I’ll accept whatever path I am given in life, but I might as well make the road easier for myself and others. My life plans have been changed for me, so I need to find a different direction to execute new plans! Plans changed, Direction changed … and I cry but I laugh far more! How is your friend doing? Take care and stay safe.


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