Time to laugh at our daily frustrations. Laughter helps heal the body and soul. Have you looked throughout your surroundings and couldn’t find what you just had? How much energy are you wasting? Who finds your lost items? It’s amazing how you don’t even move and your item is lost.
It’s a constant scavenger hunt. Good news though, as you’re looking for one item you might find another! You can’t understand this unless it happens to you repeatedly every day. It’s not just glasses, it is anything! It happens in the most organized homes and environments.
How many times have you walked around wondering where you put your glasses? Thank goodness reading glasses are not expensive. You put them on and take them off many times in a day. You’ve hung them around your neck on a chain. You’ve put them in pockets. You’ve hung them on the collar of shirts … and you still don’t remember where you put them! As ridiculous as this sounds, it is reality! That’s life for everyone periodically … with any type of memory problems it’s just one speck or dimension of your day, everyday!
You spend the day looking and you’ve looked everywhere but in the mirror! How many times have you had more than one pair of glasses on your head! Sounds silly, and it is … but it happens all the time to many!
I find putting away the frustration and moving on to something else is helpful … only to laugh that so many years have lapsed and nothing changes some of these situations. Not reminders, not timers, nothing! Like falling for a silly joke, when you’ve already fallen for the same silly joke before … except it repeats over and over and over and over and over … endlessly!
What do you find common with this scenario? How do you handle these situations?
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February 15, 2013 at 2:37 pm
Love the funny photos, here, and have been meaning to tell you I love your new gravatar image, too!
I try hard to have ONLY one place in each room where I allow myself permission to lay down my glasses. As long as I obey my rule, I can find them fairly easily. I love that I discovered that! It gives me several options of where to put them, and greatly reduces my search time.
We have a friend who recently had a major stroke, but was teaching an EMT course when it happened. (Best place on earth to have a stroke!) His students got help for him really fast and he is recovering nicely.
He grieves over what he has not been able to regain, though. For instance, he can no longer remember every phone number of all his students, fellow medical pros, and supplier, but has to consult a phone directory like most people. It is hard for some to sympathize with him, although of course, that is an enormous loss. Most foks say to him, “Welcome to MY world!” which does not really bless him much.
His wife says he is better ablt to carry on an animated, cheeful conversation with people he does not know well than with close friends and family. Have you ever heard of that before? Just curious.
brain injury self rehabilitation (BISR)
February 18, 2013 at 6:50 pm
Hi Katharine, I’m saddened to hear of your friend and his stroke. He certainly has major losses regardless of his significant recovery. The only measurable loss, is his loss. Sounds as thought others have minimized what he is going through and no one would understand unless they’ve been there. His situation and seriousness has been discounted as he struggles so hard to improve. That inner struggle is horrendous. He knows he’s getting better, but who knows how hard he is trying but himself.
He’s likely to be able to carry on a conversation with a total stranger because they accept his cheerful spirit and conversation rather than feeling he’s being monitored or corrected. Corrections may make him shield himself even if they are meaningful.
I am thinking he may believe he is saying one word, when another is being verbally communicated. That’s horribly frustrating. Sometimes he may not know the wrong word is used because he knows what word he means and other times it’s when he hears that word and may be able to correct himself. Suggestion: Don’t correct his mistakes in conversation. How important is it anyway? He will correct them over time, but it can be devastating.
I’m not sure if this is helpful, but I certainly understand this one. In addition to myself, when I speak to a friend who had a serious TBI much of her conversation is incorrect and I know that but I think that would alienate me if I corrected her. If I know what she means or who she means, why should I point out what she struggles with? I’ve been there!
The other thing I might suggest is to ask him if people correcting his conversations is bothersome? I’m not certain if he’ll answer truthfully, but if he says “Yes” that might help problem solve. That reminds me of a patient I had that every question was answered with “No” regardless of the question! I’m not laughing at the patient but demonstrating how communicating is complex.
Take care and stay safe, Edie