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In memory of Nathan … It’s not “goodbye”, but “See you later”

Diann’s favorite flowers “Indian Paintbrush” (Nate’s grandmother)

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In Memory of: Nathan 11/09/1995-01/20/2014 High School Senior & 18 Forever(Click on the link to view 11 photos in memory of Nate) He had a heart of gold, a clever and creative mind, a passion for sports, music, and dance.  Also intellectually blessed with a spirit stronger then imaginable, and surrounded by love … now his life is a memory and love remains strong.  He touched more lives in his short life then many do over an entire lifetime.

Thank you to all  Riverton, Wyoming community for supporting this beautiful Peck Family in their darkest days and the ongoing support for Nate’s three siblings, mother and step-father.  You must all be proud to say you live in Riverton, Wyoming where community comes together in a time of need.

My heart goes out to my sister (Diann-Grandmother) and brother-in-law (Russ-Grandfather) as they continue to find strength while rebuilding shattered lives.  May they be blessed with many more happy memories and years ahead.

Rest In Peace Nate.

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Super Bowl Sunday: protecting all brains including retired and current NFL players

The NFL is the most powerful sports league and richest in America.  It’s an American past time and Read the rest of this entry »

 

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In memory of Nate November 9, 1995-January 20, 2014

Sad news article from Riverton, Wyoming County10 news last week and obituary of Nathan Daniel Hatfield.  In memory of Nate and all our family as we comfort Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips for brain injury … Things you need to carry while on vacation

You never plan on things happening, but be prepared in case of an emergency especially away from home.  Hours in the emergency room can easily Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Laughter as brain injury medicine … you didn’t step in that did you?

Ever seen those signs “No shirt, No shoes, No admittance!” Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Loving and living with someone when they have Cerebral Palsy, Seizures, and Brain Dysfunction (Part 6 Series)

Cognitive deficits … overwhelmed & problem solving

People with cognitive deficits usually become overwhelmed after misplacing or difficulty Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Again? Thank you for the prayers.

Advocacy.  Listening.  Persistence.  Life.  Health. POA. TPN. SICU. Ventilator. Disability. Rehabilitation. Healthcare. These are just a few terms that one’s dear friend is learning by experience.  An experience no one wants to find themselves in.

First I do want to thank everyone for their prayers for the person who has shared our home for the past 4 years and I’ve known since age 5.  In her struggle for life she found “healthcare is good if you never need it!”  She never needed it before, but when she had developed progressive problems no one seemed to hear her complaints. A common complaint to many!

Over a short time she became worse.  Finally her body would no longer go regardless of how hard her mind pushed.  Her life came to a stand still!  She was no longer well enough to work.   She feared loosing her jobs.  Now, all she wants is her health. We all have hope and prayer.

IMG_6965 It’s been a tough month, but something I’m familiar with … on all levels!  I was saddened to see how healthcare professionals expect everyone (regardless of education) to know exactly what was happening and to totally understand everything in their time of crisis.

It seems like no one has time to educate.  What’s more important than health?  It’s been a time to constantly educate and that’s kept me busy in a way I’d rather not be but I’m comfortable with this yet exhausted and overwhelmed.  There is no routine.

My dear friend is entering territory that no one wants to enter.  Her future looks bleak, so it’s day-by-day … but hopeful!

Persistence saved her life. Albeit, quality of life altered significantly.  Five attempts at getting proper healthcare. Finally someone heard her desperate plea for help but most importantly they did blood work. She’s never been sick in her entire life.

The next thing I knew she was calling to let me know they were preparing her for the  first emergency surgery.  I arrived within the hour at the emergency room.  After two surgeries and a number of medical procedures she is now off a ventilator but continues to struggle for life in an acute rehabilitation center with many medical complications from multi-system failure.

It’s unbelievable that she survived and I know anyone who had visited during this time feels the same. Her outcome is unpredictable, and only time will tell.

Education has been out but others don’t act upon it.  I just want everyone to make sure they clearly know what they need to do in a true life-altering medical emergency. Do you have a Healthcare Power of Attorney?  Do you have a Financial Power of Attorney?  Don’t wait till this happens. Every second counts when dealing with life-threatening illness and injuries.

Do you have a place where updated telephone numbers are easily accessible?  Do you know what your loved one wants?  Please have these discussions.  It’s your responsibility and its your life!  Time is of essence when dealing with life-altering illness or injuries. It’s a time of action and support, and not time for discussion.

Who are your advocates? Being prepared makes these crisis easier to handle.  Are you ready if it happens in your family? If you panic in crisis do you have someone who will react calmly to the most devastating news?

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Loving and living with someone when they have Cerebral Palsy, Seizures, and Brain Dysfunction (Part 3 of Series)

Brain injury, intelligence, rigidity, moving

She is intelligent and has developed many ways to compensate by using the computer.  Her physical activity Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips for brain and spinal cord injury, illness, injury, aging, children, adults, everyone … Questions to ask your healthcare professionals

When you come across health issues there are a number of questions you and your advocate need to ask.  It’s difficult to know what questions to ask when your world is turned upside down and you are not familiar with healthcare systems. Either the patient or the advocate, or both should ask these questions.

The best outcome to all health issues is dependent on the educated patients and advocates. Asking the following questions will help you take control, eliminate some stress and struggles with healthcare and focus on ones optimal level of functioning.  This is a comprehensive but not all inclusive list of questions to ask your healthcare provider. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Loving and living with someone when they have Cerebral Palsy, Seizures, and Brain Dysfunction (Part 1 of Series)

Routine works best with brain injury.  Most survivors place things in the same place all the time.  Anything out of order, disrupts many aspects of life. Disruption affects everyone in the famil Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips traveling by air with TBI, aging, and other physical and mental challenges

Do not let your physical and mental challenges stop you from traveling when you want or need to. You can get preferential seating by Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Tornadoes touchdown in same place as May 3, 1999

We’ve cancelled our plans for the week to gather with sibling in OKC, OK.  They survived May 3, 1999 and we believe they are safe.  Maybe they are homeless again, but hopefully safe! We will do the Memorial Day Veteran’s parade another year.

Plans can unravel in a split second when catastrophe happens.  There are no plans more important than life, health and survival. Our new plan will be the same as it was May 3, 1999 … sending blankets, sheets, and medical supplies. Sometimes things happen on a personal level.  This is one of those times! Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Missing in Cleveland, Ohio Part 2 of 2

Police were at the door of this home.  There was  “no answer”, but that does not mean suspicion.  It’s a right and as much as we know that the police were knocking at the door where these three young women were being held captive they were not there because they knew the women were there.

What If

There will always be those “what if” thoughts.  So, what if the police shouted out “Police” we could speculate the women may have started pounding on the walls.  On the other hand, they could also believe they were being “tested” and not respond at all.

They were at this house because of an unrelated incident that happened during the employment as a school bus driver.  Yes, it was a missed opportunity but it’s unlikely they would have detected anything unusual.  If the suspect’s own brothers did not know anything he obviously figured out how to cover every thing up, until he made this one mistake a week ago.

Teen & early adulthood vulnerable

We’ve all been through those teen years and I’m fairly certain that everyone has experienced at least one situation in their years that could have ended very differently if another took advantage of vulnerable days.

This sparked another memory with my childhood best friend.  If we were ever missing I’m sure others would have said, “They would never go anywhere with a stranger”!

I’d love for others to take a moment to think back to those vulnerable years and share one experience that could have had a very different outcome if another took advantage of the situation.  These young women need to know that they did nothing wrong.  The person that did wrong was the criminal!

An ordinary teen another example

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Cleveland, Ohio (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In my example of one situation it highlights how easily anyone could fall prey to criminal behaviors because of perceived trusting relationships.  At the age of 17 and 16 respectively,  myself and my childhood best friend put ourselves in an unknowingly vulnerable situation.  Was it ignorance?  Naive? Trusting?  It likely was a combination of naïvety, trust, and ignorance.

We never even thought that anything could happen.  It simply never crossed our minds.  Now, that isn’t to say things didn’t happen years ago.  Many things did, and we both had many areas of violence in our life.  Media attention was not what it is today.

We went to see the movie “Love Story” at Parmatown mall.  We took a bus home, but it was the wrong bus line.  Instead of getting home we were lost in a dark area we did not know.  Neither one of us would have been likely to take a ride from a stranger, or from anyone we knew.  We did just what no one else would believe.

The bus driver offered to drive us to our home.  We took that ride and fortunately we arrived safely! This also points out that many people are trustworthy individuals, and simply trying to help.

Had anything gone array everyone would have said, “They’d never go anywhere voluntarily”, and you never know what you would do unless you are in that situation.  One of these teens knew the perpetrator, it was her best friend’s father.  I’m pretty certain most of us have taken rides from people related to our best friend.  That’s why we call them our “best friend”, we trust them and their relationships…until they no longer are trustworthy or we take different paths in life.

To sum up this sad situation with these lovely young women and a child.  I believe in them, and know they will become happy adults and child.  They were assessed at the hospital where my nursing career as I once knew it, ended.  It’s the best place to be with a complicated situation.  Besides, this decade of torture for these young women happened less then one mile of MetroHealth Systems.

Neighbors

The neighbors had no reason to be suspicious.  If they were, they would have reported it.  Everyone has met strange people, but strange doesn’t equal criminal!  The suspects deception was incredible.  He deceived many adults, including his own siblings so it’s no wonder he was able to deceive inexperienced teens.

Many people don’t know what is happening within their own home, their own family, so to expect neighbors to know what is happening is outrageous.  Neighbors are not to blame.   Even the most astute neighbor would not be able to detect this level of deception. The emotional trauma these neighbors are feeling must be insurmountable.  Neighbors reacted when they had the opportunity and they rescued the women when they heard the calls for help.

The slogan “If you see something, say something.” This has very literal meaning.  If you only suspect something, it’s unlikely police would investigate.  They usually never do anything unless something drastic happens.  Hence, this is a primary reason for so many deaths from domestic violence.

Police respond … a fragmented system

Police officers respond to things witnessed, but in a large city prioritizing calls may put your concern at the bottom of the list.  Even when they do respond it may be minimized. A call here and there of concern may not put the entire picture together.

If different officers respond, it’s less likely anyone will put the pieces of the puzzle together.  (Similar to a fragmented health care system issues when one has a complex case and specialists are involved or one seeks another opinion) This is another fragmented system where no one links the problems together until disaster, terrorism, violence becomes insurmountable.

Healing

It is time for this entire community to begin healing.  Their healing will help these young women, child, families and friends to recover. Pray for the three young women and child found alive in Cleveland, Ohio.  May all their emotional needs be supported.

What type of situation have you been in that no one else would suspect?

If anyone is interested in donations to these young women there is only one legal fund at this time.  Cleveland Courage Fund has been set up to help. Click on the link below:  

http://www.newsnet5.com/dpp/news/local_news/oh_cuyahoga/cleveland-courage-fund-donations-accepted-for-michelle-knight-amanda-berry-gina-dejesus

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Missing in Cleveland, Ohio Part 1 of 2

Over the past week International news has spread about Cleveland, Ohio. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips for brain injury … exercise Part 2 of 2

Exercise, that seems like work!  Even if you think you aren’t exercising, it’s likely you are.  Are you doing any of the following? Read the rest of this entry »

 

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In the aftermath of terrorism … Who gets rehabilitation

In the aftermath of terrorism many questions remain.  Many people have lost what was “normal”.  They will be searching for a new normal.  Most will find that balance with help.  Are we ready to help in all the ways they need?  Who will get rehabilitation and what type of rehabilitation? Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips for brain injury … exercise Part 1 of 2

Are you struggling to get on track to feeling your best?  What is your best? Are you interested in becoming your healthiest and prefer avoiding the gym? Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Laughter as Brain Injury Medicine … Silly comments or questions

Have you laughed today?  Many times we say things that are innocent but Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Medications that help but what it takes to get them Part 2 of 2

Some problems that are happening inside our healthcare system are due to Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Relieved it’s not me … new what?

This isn’t an April Fool’s joke, but I wish it were!I was told this was a new step stool!  Take a look at this picture.  Unless it was a recent purchase from a thrift store it definitely is not a new step stool.  It’s all about perception. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips … making it easier one day at a time with TBI

Do you have a written plan to help yourself or your loved one through the difficult days of TBI?  One did not like telling others about having a bad day.  They are just days in the lives of TBI.  Others would refer to these days as “bad days”, but when you have chronic illness, injury, brain dysfunction, or TBI it’s just part of life. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Laughter as brain injury medicine … Are you sleeping?

Who needs sleep? Awe, one is finally having restful nights with adequate amount of sleep.  You would think 4 out of 7 nights are good if you had a TBI, and to our standards I’m in the “good” range now! Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips … enhancing one’s well-being with TBI, SCI, Chronic Illness and Aging Part 2 of 2

When one’s life changes, do others “accept” these changes?  Can you return to previous employment Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips … enhancing one’s well-being with TBI, SCI, Chronic Illness and Aging Part 1 of 2

 

How can we improve awareness of self and others and enhance one’s well-being while dealing with traumatic brain and spinal cord injury, mental and physical illnesses, and the aging process?

 

Artistic and creative talent frequently emerges with Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips: When YOU suddenly join the TBI club! Part 3 of 3

This is definitely a family affair!  With gratitude Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips: When YOU suddenly join the TBI club! Part 2 of 3

No one knows their deficits until they are out of formal rehabilitation, when life Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Laughter as brain injury medicine … fashion or not?

Is this fashion or not? We were visiting with friends and discussing attire from years ago. Three of us had similar life experiences, but Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Treatment that changed TBI symptoms: Neuroendocrine complications in TBI Part 2

Neuroendocrine complications are common with TBI but often remain undiagnosed and untreated wreaking havoc on survivors who struggle for answers. Neuroendocrine deficits begin in the Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips: When YOU suddenly join the TBI club! Part 1 of 3

To receive the quality care you or a loved one deserves after traumatic brain injury you must have Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Do you think you should be feeling better? You should! Dr. Charles Parker , a Neuroscientist, psychiatrist, and author of two books is offering a free webinar March 14th 6-8 pm (eastern time). This includes an interactive session and expert advice of “brain science”, including TBI along with ADD.

This neuroscientist starts getting a biological profile to determine balance with neurotransmitters, hormones, and trace minerals. Read the comment about a gentleman who improved after 18 years. It sounds like a very similar story to mine.

With advances like this, TBI symptoms could possibly be managed with the quality of life improving drastically. Let’s all keep pushing for quality and searching for the proper professionals. One of his books “Deep Recovery” focuses on “labels” during recovery/rehabilitation and where the focus should be during evaluation, assessment and treatment for adequate care.

I truly believe signing up for this Shindig will be an educational opportunity no one wants to miss. What do you think about the research, and possible improvement in TBI symptoms and quality of life?

 

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As I said on an earlier post,Dr. Charles Parkerfellow ADD advocate, is one of the physician crusaders for specificity – of diagnosis and of treatment approaches – and he will be at your service on March 14th, 2013, no matter where you are in the world, at no charge whatsoever.

Neuroscientist, adult and child psychiatrist, Dr Parker is the originator of CorePsych, and the creator of an amazing amount of high-value webcontent in various formats on the CorePsych Blog.

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