Monday 2/17/14 UPDATE HERE
Thursday 1/30/14 UPDATE
Modern medicine is very different than the last time I had broken bones – in my right leg – but, unfortunately, bones don’t heal correspondingly rapidly.
I came home from my Jan. 28th appointment with Xrays that showed enough healing of the multiple spiral fractures I sustained during the robbery to move to the next step. I now have what is called a “removable cast” on my right arm. supporting further healing of my right hand.
The great news is that, after 31 very grungy and self-esteem decimating days, I could finally take a bath and wash my hair. Also that I can begin the process of training the fingers of my dominant hand to work in consort again.
Since tendon damage over the breaks has currently “crippled” my two middle fingers, I still cannot type very well (or rapidly), but I am now, finally, able to practice – and to use my trackball.
Please be consciously careful about how you communicate to me about this good news.
Everyone means well, I’m sure, but “cheer up” communications meant to be motivational land differently when so much still must be accomplished before I can say I have recovered – it will be good news when I have my life back again, and not until.
There is still MUCH to do to recover proof of my identity,pay all my current bills (now that I FINALLY have a debit card, despite the fact that the name on this new card is incorrect so it must be replace AGAIN), handle the problems of a stolen phone so that I can get my business on track to be able to pay my bills going forward – and to find ways to keep services on before tomorrow’s beginning of month domino problems add to my load.
I have not needed “an attitude adjustment” – I have needed empathy, attempts at understanding the implications of what I am dealing with, communication that did not require my ability to do what I cannot currently do, and practical help.
MANY thanks to those who have communicated to me from that paradigm.
Given all, my “attitude” is quite amazing, thank you – especially for someone who could do precious little but watch Hulu reruns, dining on peanut butter out of a jar and vegetables out of a can as I waited on “the kindness of strangers” for 33 solid days — each, understandably, VERY busy with their own lives.
It seems that we ALL need an “attitude adjustment.”
I am forever changed by what I observed during the last 33 days, and will be writing articles about my experience as time permits.
Our society is empathy-averse, and I plan to speak out about it in the next few months, as I put my own life back together — in support of those who are dealing with conditions that will not recover so “rapidly” – or may not recover at all.
Our society has become very self-focused and competitive in the 30 years since my last experience with broken bones. I may not be able to do much to change it, but I am driven to name it and to speak out against it. Perhaps THAT is the silver lining to this cloud.
“Tough” and “love” NEVER belong in the same sentence. They are very different things. Time creeps for those awaiting attention and help once autonomy has been stripped.
I am slowly preparing an article about this very thing – it is good exercise that will strengthen the muscles in my right fingers.
Meanwhile, pay some kind attention to those in YOUR lives who have been waiting for you to have time for them. Attempt to cheer them up without making them wrong for needing cheering — simply listening (without “up-languaging”) is a very kind thing to do, and easy to offer.
bones knitting – swelling down so I can finally move right hand fingers – cast restricts usage so still stuck w/ non-dominant hand 1-finger typing & cross keyboard trackball — bummer!
Getting better at it but not enough to do much of anything that doesn’t take FOREVER!! So no blogging in Jan.
Next Xray & cast removal or cast change is 28th — prayers appreciated.
SO sorry — unavailable for [1/9/13 update] AT LEAST a week MORE — probably longer.
1/9/13 UPDATE HERE
My houseguest Cindy & I were jumped by a band of thugs as we returned from dinner the night she arrived (Sat.). Thieves got phones, datebook (w/ backup contacts), meds, wallets w/ cards & cash, checkbook, keys to house & car, etc.
Police said we were 3rd victims in normally safe ‘nabe (same nite, same MO) . They pistol-whipped Cindy & broke my right hand; grateful nothing worse & that no guns fired — hanging in as well as possible, given all.
We are both of scrambling to put basics back together — not really possible ’til banks & offices open again & new cards arrive, which complicates all. But first we need sleep!
C. located affordable replacement phone in Kentucky (Craigslist), and we *just* returned with phone — almost midnight, she is off trying to activate. Took ALL day & into nite trying to handle sans phone, cash or credit.
I can’t type (dress, cook, or do anything much w/o use of VERY painful right hand) – EVERYTHING takes me forever sans help – so things will be slow-going for some time.
Things will improve a bit as soon as ONE of us has a phone we can use at will (and she is available to help ME), but I will have no time or bandwidth to return calls, etc. until we BOTH replace necessary items, deal with locksmiths, etc. — nor will I be able to approve comments or answer ANYONE on blog or email.
This will be my only contact for a while. We’re slammed.
So sorry – and apologize for this post — my only way to contact right now, and slow-going at that. Thanks for your understanding & patience at this time.
God bless, stay safe, keep your eyes open, and don’t carry more than you must (and can afford to lose).