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Missing in Cleveland, Ohio Part 2 of 2

Police were at the door of this home.  There was  “no answer”, but that does not mean suspicion.  It’s a right and as much as we know that the police were knocking at the door where these three young women were being held captive they were not there because they knew the women were there.

What If

There will always be those “what if” thoughts.  So, what if the police shouted out “Police” we could speculate the women may have started pounding on the walls.  On the other hand, they could also believe they were being “tested” and not respond at all.

They were at this house because of an unrelated incident that happened during the employment as a school bus driver.  Yes, it was a missed opportunity but it’s unlikely they would have detected anything unusual.  If the suspect’s own brothers did not know anything he obviously figured out how to cover every thing up, until he made this one mistake a week ago.

Teen & early adulthood vulnerable

We’ve all been through those teen years and I’m fairly certain that everyone has experienced at least one situation in their years that could have ended very differently if another took advantage of vulnerable days.

This sparked another memory with my childhood best friend.  If we were ever missing I’m sure others would have said, “They would never go anywhere with a stranger”!

I’d love for others to take a moment to think back to those vulnerable years and share one experience that could have had a very different outcome if another took advantage of the situation.  These young women need to know that they did nothing wrong.  The person that did wrong was the criminal!

An ordinary teen another example

Cleveland, Ohio

Cleveland, Ohio (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

In my example of one situation it highlights how easily anyone could fall prey to criminal behaviors because of perceived trusting relationships.  At the age of 17 and 16 respectively,  myself and my childhood best friend put ourselves in an unknowingly vulnerable situation.  Was it ignorance?  Naive? Trusting?  It likely was a combination of naïvety, trust, and ignorance.

We never even thought that anything could happen.  It simply never crossed our minds.  Now, that isn’t to say things didn’t happen years ago.  Many things did, and we both had many areas of violence in our life.  Media attention was not what it is today.

We went to see the movie “Love Story” at Parmatown mall.  We took a bus home, but it was the wrong bus line.  Instead of getting home we were lost in a dark area we did not know.  Neither one of us would have been likely to take a ride from a stranger, or from anyone we knew.  We did just what no one else would believe.

The bus driver offered to drive us to our home.  We took that ride and fortunately we arrived safely! This also points out that many people are trustworthy individuals, and simply trying to help.

Had anything gone array everyone would have said, “They’d never go anywhere voluntarily”, and you never know what you would do unless you are in that situation.  One of these teens knew the perpetrator, it was her best friend’s father.  I’m pretty certain most of us have taken rides from people related to our best friend.  That’s why we call them our “best friend”, we trust them and their relationships…until they no longer are trustworthy or we take different paths in life.

To sum up this sad situation with these lovely young women and a child.  I believe in them, and know they will become happy adults and child.  They were assessed at the hospital where my nursing career as I once knew it, ended.  It’s the best place to be with a complicated situation.  Besides, this decade of torture for these young women happened less then one mile of MetroHealth Systems.

Neighbors

The neighbors had no reason to be suspicious.  If they were, they would have reported it.  Everyone has met strange people, but strange doesn’t equal criminal!  The suspects deception was incredible.  He deceived many adults, including his own siblings so it’s no wonder he was able to deceive inexperienced teens.

Many people don’t know what is happening within their own home, their own family, so to expect neighbors to know what is happening is outrageous.  Neighbors are not to blame.   Even the most astute neighbor would not be able to detect this level of deception. The emotional trauma these neighbors are feeling must be insurmountable.  Neighbors reacted when they had the opportunity and they rescued the women when they heard the calls for help.

The slogan “If you see something, say something.” This has very literal meaning.  If you only suspect something, it’s unlikely police would investigate.  They usually never do anything unless something drastic happens.  Hence, this is a primary reason for so many deaths from domestic violence.

Police respond … a fragmented system

Police officers respond to things witnessed, but in a large city prioritizing calls may put your concern at the bottom of the list.  Even when they do respond it may be minimized. A call here and there of concern may not put the entire picture together.

If different officers respond, it’s less likely anyone will put the pieces of the puzzle together.  (Similar to a fragmented health care system issues when one has a complex case and specialists are involved or one seeks another opinion) This is another fragmented system where no one links the problems together until disaster, terrorism, violence becomes insurmountable.

Healing

It is time for this entire community to begin healing.  Their healing will help these young women, child, families and friends to recover. Pray for the three young women and child found alive in Cleveland, Ohio.  May all their emotional needs be supported.

What type of situation have you been in that no one else would suspect?

If anyone is interested in donations to these young women there is only one legal fund at this time.  Cleveland Courage Fund has been set up to help. Click on the link below:  

http://www.newsnet5.com/dpp/news/local_news/oh_cuyahoga/cleveland-courage-fund-donations-accepted-for-michelle-knight-amanda-berry-gina-dejesus

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Missing in Cleveland, Ohio Part 1 of 2

Over the past week International news has spread about Cleveland, Ohio. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Relieved it’s not me … new what?

This isn’t an April Fool’s joke, but I wish it were!I was told this was a new step stool!  Take a look at this picture.  Unless it was a recent purchase from a thrift store it definitely is not a new step stool.  It’s all about perception. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips … making it easier one day at a time with TBI

Do you have a written plan to help yourself or your loved one through the difficult days of TBI?  One did not like telling others about having a bad day.  They are just days in the lives of TBI.  Others would refer to these days as “bad days”, but when you have chronic illness, injury, brain dysfunction, or TBI it’s just part of life. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Treatment that changed TBI symptoms: Neuroendocrine complications in TBI Part 4

Neuroendocrine complications after TBI are identified in these posts as severe injuries to the brain.  Degrees of brain injury may remain unknown since many traumatic brain injuries are commonly Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips … enhancing one’s well-being with TBI, SCI, Chronic Illness and Aging Part 1 of 2

 

How can we improve awareness of self and others and enhance one’s well-being while dealing with traumatic brain and spinal cord injury, mental and physical illnesses, and the aging process?

 

Artistic and creative talent frequently emerges with Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Treatment that changed TBI symptoms: Neuroendocrine complications in TBI Part 2

Neuroendocrine complications are common with TBI but often remain undiagnosed and untreated wreaking havoc on survivors who struggle for answers. Neuroendocrine deficits begin in the Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Do you think you should be feeling better? You should! Dr. Charles Parker , a Neuroscientist, psychiatrist, and author of two books is offering a free webinar March 14th 6-8 pm (eastern time). This includes an interactive session and expert advice of “brain science”, including TBI along with ADD.

This neuroscientist starts getting a biological profile to determine balance with neurotransmitters, hormones, and trace minerals. Read the comment about a gentleman who improved after 18 years. It sounds like a very similar story to mine.

With advances like this, TBI symptoms could possibly be managed with the quality of life improving drastically. Let’s all keep pushing for quality and searching for the proper professionals. One of his books “Deep Recovery” focuses on “labels” during recovery/rehabilitation and where the focus should be during evaluation, assessment and treatment for adequate care.

I truly believe signing up for this Shindig will be an educational opportunity no one wants to miss. What do you think about the research, and possible improvement in TBI symptoms and quality of life?

 

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As I said on an earlier post,Dr. Charles Parkerfellow ADD advocate, is one of the physician crusaders for specificity – of diagnosis and of treatment approaches – and he will be at your service on March 14th, 2013, no matter where you are in the world, at no charge whatsoever.

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Treatment that changed TBI symptoms Part 1

Who would ever think after nearly two decades … precisely 18 1/2 years one would get their life back?  Was it answer to prayer?  Was it prayer that kept one alive?  With certainty, it was both. This treatment and diagnosis is common to traumatic brain injury. Sadly, most do not know about it.  I did not know about it. Many TBI patients, families and even healthcare professionals do not know it. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Saturday photo day: Warm body and warm heart

Bundle up and stay warm in the cold weather.  Don’t forget to keep your pets warm too!   This is the life of comfort, warmth and love!

Even man's best friend doesn't mind the cold!  Just keep them warm!

Even man’s best friend doesn’t mind the cold!
Just keep them warm!

 

 

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Laughter as medicine … how loud is too loud

Have you ever sat in the same room with another and they appear to be watching the television?  Have you asked questions and they reply “Huh?”  Have you noticed Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips … organizing and helping in the kitchen after brain injury

The kitchen is an area that can create significant chaos when things get put away in the wrong place.  It’s distressing to those Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Both sides to this scenario: physician and receptionist versus patient

Do the physicians really know what’s happening at the front desk?  Is it the patient that has the problem?  Is it the receptionist’s problem?  Usually Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Laughter as brain injury medicine … another day another year

I tried on and off all day to post a simple laughter note.  All I wanted to say Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips to taking back control and saving relationships after injury Part 2 of 2

It’s never too late to change.  If you have a new or old injury make sure you are doing what you can for yourself.  You need to focus on the things you can do.  Evaluate the things you might be able to do, and try to do these things.  Repetition brings success. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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2007 Christmas family gathering where most people wouldn’t expect

It’s the holiday season and reminders of years past.  It’s bad enough that my subarachnoid hemorrhage occurred December 22, 1991 … a date I will never forget and left my life and my immediate family’s altered forever!  What comes to mind now is Christmas time 2007! Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips to taking back control and saving relationships after injury Part 1 of 2

If you are depending on others to help get you through the early phases after brain injury, illness or other health issues remember to keep these dependencies temporary.  Take back control and do all the things you can do for yourself providing you stay safe.  Put fear behind you. Don’t let fear control you.  Don’t depend, join in and attend life! Read the rest of this entry »

 

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If I could have, I would have … The Caring Children Program

In 1990 and 1991 two nurses from Cleveland, Ohio  health systems founded programs that taught children several levels of health in the elementary school setting. The  “Caring Children Program was taught in the classroom and other community settings as a team effort with nurses and children. Teaching focused on preventive health, education and understanding through hands-on skills and active participation. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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How it all began 40 years ago … a journey back in time Part 3 of 4

Al got the approval of both my father and mother to marry me.  We were engaged April 2, 1972.  There was significant turmoil in family Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips understanding injuries are very different … Part 2 of 2

Following the minor accident she sustained many symptoms.  Some of the problems she recalls are: memory problems, an inability to focus, poor judgement, poor financial decisions, unable to balance a checkbook, unable to compensate, unable to sleep, increase in pain, extreme fatigue, irritability, unable to be independent because of level of fatigue, required assistance to accomplish activities of daily living, profound confusion, and finally an inability to work at career that was her passion.

Most importantly, she was unable to care for herself and struggled to parent her daughters. She did not qualify for rehabilitation. Now she wonders why her brain didn’t qualify for rehabilitation, but her amputation was covered daily for several months!  Was her leg considered more valuable than

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Simple tips helping others

At times life seems complicated and everything one does just does not make sense.  You get up and look in the mirror.  You consider yourself fortunate that you’ve survived … sometimes! Because of the superficial society no one understands what life is truly like.  You look good,  must be nothing wrong! That couldn’t be any further from the truth!

Appearance is the one thing that most those who traumatic brain injury, aging, chronic illness, and mental illness can control.  They take pride in their appearance when out in public.  Often it is the only thing under one’s control.

How many have been told to look how much someone can accomplish after they have lost limbs or have some other physical injuries?  Is the frustration with brain injury justifiable?  Is losing a limb comparable to brain injury?  Next two “Simple Tip Posts”  is a situation from someone who experienced both. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Please stop trying to hurry me along

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frustration. (Photo credit: nicole.pierce.photography ♥)

No one understands the frustration that hustle and bustle creates in the minds of brain injury, brain dysfunction, chronic illnesses as well as the aging population.  In this fast paced society it makes it more difficult for these individuals to do their daily routine without feeling frazzled. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Trusting my neuropsychologist after traumatic brain injury 1992-2000

Akron, Ohio

Akron, Ohio (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Patients depend on trustworthy healthcare professionals.  The majority are trustworthy and understand their limitations and boundaries and others do not.  Who else better to trust than an understanding neuropsychologist? This was someone who represented herself as a professional in Akron, OhioRead the rest of this entry »

 

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Simple tips if you are getting ready for that special occasion

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Attending all the family gatherings and events this time of year can be extremely difficult for those with injuries, chronic illnesses, and brain injuries or dysfunction.  Here are a few tips that are helpful to get through these events and yet enjoy the people who are present.  It exhausts those dealing with the above-mentioned issues, so planning and organization is the key.   Read the rest of this entry »

 

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General and simple tips for handling and taking medications Part 4 of 4

It is your life and medications can help you with specific problems, but you need to be cautious and know what is working for you and what is not.  It is up to you to report exactly how you are feeling.

Keep a medication journal, especially when Read the rest of this entry »

 

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General and simple tips for handling and taking medications Part 3 of 4

Physician appointments, Emergency Room Visits, and HospitalizationsTake all your medications, vitamins, herbs, natural remedies, and anything over the counter.  Take a list of your medications as well.  Sometimes there are mistakes with medications and this help alleviate those errors. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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General and simple tips for handling and taking medications Part 2 of 4

Allergies-Make a list of all your allergies.  The list of allergies should include both medication allergies and food allergies. DO NOT take any medications you are allergic to.  Usually the most serious allergic reaction occurs when you take the medication for the second time.  This can be life threatening. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Healthcare professionals with a traumatic brain injury. Who should know better? Part 3 of 3

Awareness of Brain Injury Daily. I’m applauded with the behaviors and treatment toward my nurse friend when she needed educated healthcare professionals to help her.  Instead it was quite the opposite.  They simply did not understand traumatic brain injury and they believed she was manipulating her symptoms so she could work the hours of her choice.  If they only knew how she was suffering and what she needed to do to show up to work.  These healthcare professionals were totally in disbelief of her symptoms and never understood anything following her injury.  They began questioning her behaviors and other issues following this mild traumatic brain injury. She wasn’t even told or diagnosed with a mild traumatic brain injury until about a year following injury. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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Need help? Simple tips: Where do I go? When? How can I ask for help?

So many might think asking for help comes naturally.  Millions of individuals never need to ask for help, hence they do not know how. Of all these people life goes on without great difficulty because they easily deal well with daily living…until that event occurs that changes their lives forever.  Until that time you probably were independent with everything in your life organized and successful.  Most likely, you put others first and everyone seemed to look to you for answers. Unfortunately asking for help following a brain injury sometimes seems impossible simply because all the other consequences of this devastating injury.  It’s a travesty that with all the recent media attention so many are struggling with life altering changes that fluctuate from day-to-day and year-to-year without rehabilitation or help.  Others simply do not understand.

The first key to getting help is to find someone who listens! After getting someone to listen I have included several different ideas to ask for help and receive it for traumatic brain injury, spinal cord injury and other chronic illnesses as well as any life problems to reach your highest level of functioning. Read the rest of this entry »

 

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